It seems you're suffering from severe PEBKAC issues.
You need to sit down and realize the world doesn't spin around you. With the attitude you show in your post I assume you can count the number of times you've helped someone else on one hand, although you'd probably try to make it two hands.
Short guide to enlightenment:
a) Don't whine.
b) Don't whine about noone wanting to help you.
c) Don't whine about the ffxi economyor looooong time spent looking for party.
d) Don't be a drama queen.
e) Don't be a loot whore.
f) Don't repeatedly beg for help doing stuff.
g) Take time to help others, decent people tend to pay you back in help.
h) Don't blackmail for help by using past given help.
i) Don't help people who never help others, even if they whine.
j) Don't pay others to help you.
k) Perform random acts of kindness like helping someone get an af WITHOUT charging for it. Aka, join af hunt shouts, use the time to skillup a weapon (there's always one).
l) Play the game like a game, ENJOY what you're doing. Make sure you're not causing someone else a less enjoyable game experience.
m) Don't add people to friend list just on a whim, add them to friendlist because they are PEOPLE that you'd love to party with again.
n) Look within yourself, why did you lose 30k doing limit one? That's probably a SERVERWIDE record, other peoples stupidity can't account for all of it.
o) Look within yourself, what would you think about everyone in your linkshell constantly wanting help from YOU camping random item X?
p) Look within yourself, how !@#$%^&* stupid can you be to make a post like the one above. If I met you ingame you'd be on my blacklist within seconds. If I didn't blacklist you on word of mouth which would also be likelly.
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Normal person goes through maybe 2-5 linkshells from 1 to 75. I've been in 2 linkshells and I've logged over 190 days ingame time (that's excluding botting time!). I'm still an appreciated member of both.
In EverQuest I was a member of 3 guilds with 160 days ingame time. (Oh puhlease, make a comment on how I have no life.

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Take a hint, the only common denominator is you. You are the problem, fix it.